LOVE, FRIENDSHIP AND RELATIONSHIP

LOVE, FRIENDSHIP AND RELATIONSHIP

Often times we hide under the charade “love” that we forget what love is and why it exists.

A lot of young people today have so many misplaced priorities when it comes to this topic.

Ever thought “what if the other person is not there”, won’t you still love genuinely?

This brings me to say that for you to be able to show love genuinely to others,

 You must start with yourself, and you can’t give what you don’t have.

It is our denial of who we are that makes this life hard, and happiness harder.

Happiness is what you feel when you love, Not when you are applauded for being a terrible person by people who believe being that way will lead them to happiness.

 People say charity begins at home well that’s very true.

When you love yourself, it makes loving others easy.

Will you kill yourself for making a mistake “no” so why hurt others when they make a mistake that you can as well make?

So what is love?

Love is patient, love is kind, love is enduring, love is tolerating, love is understanding, love is forgiving.

Love is finding yourself and staying true to yourself

Love does not deceive; it comes with a lot of sacrifice.

You need to find yourself before you can find others, a blind man leading a blind man trust me they’ll both fall into a ditch.

Self-love begat love for others.

Life is a ship where you meet different categories of people, the good, bad, ugly, handsome, pretty, petty, annoying, intellectual, etc.

 A ship conveys people from one place to another and in that ship there are lots of passengers.

 The ability to conquer the storm that rages while in the ship will be achieved by all the passengers on that ship cooperating and looking out for each other.

Now that depends on the type of mindset of the people in the ship, this brings us to talking about friendship.

 Friendship is picking someone out of this group of people to continue the journey on your own personal trip.

A friend is a fellow, who supports you at all times, chastises you when you do wrong,

tells the truth about you to your face even when it is very hard to tell, goes all the way out for you, respects you, your emotions, decisions, choices and differences, understands your timing.

Intuitively, the word friendship gives me an idea of profound, honest, pursuing a trust and candor.

They do not appear immediately, out of nothing.

I think that art of friendship is not given to everybody, it is a very fine science.

Conceited, vain, and mercantile people cannot be true friends.

Friendship is not nice until your friend can defend you in your absence, scold you when you do the wrong thing, etc.

So choose your friends wisely, you don’t want to be friends with someone who’d blow you up.

Here comes the big one; Relationship

People say relationship is crazy, annoying and frustrating, but I feel like when you set your priorities right relationship is easy.

We need to understand that love and friendship gives birth to relationship.

So understanding the place of love and friendship brings about a rise in relationship.

Getting into a relationship, what is your aim?

We have so many misplaced priorities today, so many people get into a relationship for their personal gains, and this is the reason as to why we have too many failed relationships,

 No matter the kind of relationship you are getting into be it business, work, marriage what have you, set your priorities right.

Ask yourself: am I ready for everything that will come with this, what do I tend to achieve in this relationship, what do I have to offer,

 Mind you relationship comes with a lot of sacrifice and any relationship that will not affect your life positively isn’t worth it, so you need to sit down and draw a road map for yourself.

You don’t just get into one because people are doing it, are you mentally fit for it, you don’t want to have something that will break you after some time, you need to work on yourself, prepare your mind for the journey.

 when you learn how to deal with yourself dealing with others could be quite easy, let’s not forget the fact that human beings are a very difficult specie to deal with but then it has to start with you.

If every one of us work on ourselves, dealing with each other will be a lot more easier.

We must also understand that we are all different; everybody cannot be like you, so you have to bring yourself to train your mind to multitask when it comes to dealing with people.

In conclusion, love yourself, find yourself, then you can love and find others thereby making friendship easy, when friendship becomes easy, relationship becomes a lot more easier, because you can only be in a relationship with your friend.

You don’t want to give yourself the mental stress of finding others when you’ve not even found one-third of yourself.

So the trend is: love myself – love others, find myself – find others – love+friendship = a great and a happy relationship.

Any relationship including friendship, we need to build and build for a long time. Spread each “brick”, each “stair”. This is hard work right, make it easier by working on yourself.

Next Topic for consideration will be on “building yourself”.

Writer: Regina Igwe.